There are three main culprits; the poor quality or complete lack of comprehensive sex education in schools, the discomfort of sexual conversations between parents and kids, and closed-minded stigmas of the past.

We believe that knowledge is power, and when it comes to sex, it can be life-changing.

Here are a few things to note when it comes to many adults’ relationships with sex and sexuality.

Our educators let us down

Did you learn more about sex from Big Brother Up Late or Dolly Doctor than you ever did at school? It’s not just you – many adults report feeling let down by their sex ed. Unfortunately, sex education historically focused on abstinence and didn’t adequately cover critical topics such as pleasure, consent, and LGBTQ+ issues. Classic. Seeking out additional resources and information can help. Pop incognito mode on if you’re feeling shy, but do your own research. It can be invaluable.

Knowledge is power

Nothing empowers more than education. It allows you to make informed decisions, develop critical thinking skills, and have greater control over their lives. When you understand how bodies work, what consent means, what turns you on, and what you need to feel pleasure, you can communicate more effectively with your partner, build stronger relationships, and enjoy more satisfying sexual experiences.

The pleasure gap is real

The pleasure gap is a term used to describe the disparity between male and female identifying people when it comes to sexual pleasure. In layperson terms, if you’re female and sleep with men, you’re probably familiar with feeling short- changed. Studies have shown that women are less likely to achieve orgasm during sexual encounters than men. Everybody owes it to both themselves and their partners to understand the pleasure gap and how to address it.

Anatomy matters

Understanding your body is critical for sexual health and wellness. Take the time to learn about your own anatomy, how your body responds to different stimuli, and what you need to feel pleasure. Learn to masturbate as frequently and unashamedly as you like. It’s literally research – the findings of which you can share with your partner to enjoy more mutually fulfilling sexual experiences.

Preach what you practise

If you’re a parent or guardian who wants your child to have a healthy sex education and relationship with sex, consider ways to provide accurate and age – appropriate information about sex and sexuality, promote healthy attitudes and behaviours, and reduce the risk of negative outcomes such as unwanted pregnancies, sexually transmitted infections, and sexual violence. Ask what your child is learning about sex, both through their formal education and their peers, and fill in any gaps or misinformation you might want to address.

Healthy sex education for adults has only benefits. It can help you build stronger relationships, communicate more effectively with partners, experience more pleasure, and explore your sexuality in a safer and healthier way. It can also help promote a more positive attitude towards sexual health and wellness for those around you. If you feel you have a little (or a lot) to learn, don’t be afraid to seek out resources.

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